Business Talk Radio Interview
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Warmly, Randi
The Fearlessness of Babes
Recently I was facetiming with my son and 3 year-old granddaughter Ember-Claire. They were in her bedroom when Ember noticed a spider on the carpet. Their conversation went something like this.
“Look Daddy – there’s a spider!”
“I see that. Would you like to name the spider?”
“Yes. I’d like to name it Sarah.”
There wasn’t any fear whatsoever.
She then put her fingers to her lips and said “Mimi, you have to whisper now because Sarah is trying to get some sleep.” I said ok, and we continued to have our conversation with very soft voices.
My son then went on to tell me when they were on 1 of 7 planes on a family world tour, (they had just returned from to Hawaii, Australia and Tokyo) one of the planes was hit by lightning. Ember’s response to that was to throw her arms up in the air and shout “Wheeee!!!” while it was happening!
As babies we all enter this world with two fears, the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned.
What would it be like if we were to inquire about some of our current and longstanding fears? How many of those fears are valid now, or could they possibly be theoretical?
Navigation At Its Best
When my granddaughter was almost 3 my daughter and I took her to a gym to play. Amongst other things there was a large pit with a slide, filled with lots of colored balls and some small toys. We placed her inside and she started to navigate the area. She walked around slowly. There were quite a few other children there. As she moved towards a child she felt was friendly, she would start to play with them. When they were done she would walk around again, and I noticed if she moved towards a child whose energy wasn’t friendly, she simply made a turn and walked in a different direction until she found someone who felt good to her. There wasn’t any judgment or thought about it. She was following her “friendly GPS!” and had a wonderful time.
This is what we come in with. An impeccable extraordinary guidance system. It begins with love, as was evidenced by my beautiful granddaughter simply moving in whatever direction brought her to what she was looking for. That guidance speaks to us all throughout the day. It becomes obscured by all we’ve learned about fear – until it doesn’t.
There are many derivations of each, but basically there are 2 emotions – love or fear.
Which GPS will we choose?
110%
My first conversation with a client years back presented many different issues. After acknowledging them all, I felt the one she was struggling with the most was a belief she had been carrying for as long as she could remember. She felt that she could not be lovable in a relationship.
I asked her to close her eyes, place her hand on her heart, and answer a question. “If it were not true that you cannot be lovable in a relationship, on a scale from 1 – 100%, how lovable can you be?” There were a few moments of silence and she said in a clear, confident voice – 110%. I can be 110% lovable in a relationship. I didn’t see that coming! She cried having been released from a belief that had limited her in many ways in her life.
How many beliefs can we be released from with a simple inquiry, so we may be moved into the joy and freedom of 110%?
Undauntable
When I turned 51 I saw a groupon for a free dance lesson at Arthur Murray and had the thought I’d like to dance through the 2nd half of my life. I took the lesson, loved it, and continued on for 5 years. So much fun!
There was a 19 year-old male instructor there. He was very sweet, shy and kind. As time went on it was a joy to watch him blossom into a very good teacher. About 3 years later another instructor was hired who would be considered by most a “natural, exceptional dancer.” He was the one the women favored. He left after a fairly short amount of time, the women were not happy, and some behaved unkindly towards the young man I just described.
One Friday night on a beautifully lit dance floor he and I were dancing. I knew he was struggling with the way the women were behaving towards him. What came to me was to let him know I felt he was capable of being undauntable. He stopped dancing, his eyes widened and he said, “Undauntable. I really like that.” He fully embraced it.
Extraordinariness
Coming into our extraordinariness enables us to share it with others.
My granddaughter has got this down!
As we’re coming into a New Year we say we’re going to do things differently.
In this moment I’m choosing to stop criticizing myself. To replace criticism with compliments & compassion. Why not? If we feel our intentions have been good, why not? Have we made mistakes. Of course. Will we make more. Sure. Can we put an end to being hard on ourselves? Can we change our relationship to those mistakes? Can we simply learn the lessons from those mistakes and move forward? What do we have to lose besides feeling bad about “who we think we are,” and a whole lot of drama and distraction from what’s truly important. Truly important such as living our lives with greater love for ourselves. What might that lead to?
I’m ready, willing and able as I can to give up self-criticism and step into each moment with as much love as I can muster up.
Anybody care to join me?
An Unexpected Encounter At The Deli
I like to shop in Wegmans which is a higher end food store. As I was passing by the deli I heard a woman who worked behind the counter singing as she was working. Her head was down, she was keeping it to herself, but I heard her. Her voice was so good, and I knew had a lot more power than she was letting on.
I decided to approach her. I told her she has a beautiful voice and suggested that she consider singing a song called Brave by Sara Bareilles. I then said to her after all, how would she get onto America’s Got Talent if she didn’t practice singing with all of the magnificence she has in her beautiful voice? She took off her gloves and walked towards me with tears in her eyes with a bright, beautiful smile. She opened her phone, wrote down the name of the song which she was unsure of but thought she had heard, and asked me to come back so she can sing it for me.
I did return and she sang it beautifully. It was all so wonderful. It took just a few moments of noticing and a few words of kindness to bring forth that Divine spark that lies within each and every one of us. Just a simple way to help bring more love into the world…